Lessons for my daughter

I lost my focus

 I realised that I was so caught up in my life and myself that I forgot that I am supposed to guide and teach my daughter how to manoeuvre in this life. I forgot that what happens to you as a child stays with you forever. They say children are resilient but what I know is, yes you forget about things over time but they remain somewhere in your brain, coming out when you least want or expect it.

 Things that happen to us as children make us who we are and when they are not resolved they can be haunting and extremely painful. I feel we must speak to our children. Find out about their lives and feelings and if they feel that you've done anything to hurt them so it doesn't fester. Just because you feel that you didn't do anything does not mean it's true. We all are different. Some are more sensitive than others.

Also,  when they are teenagers things are amplified. In the journey they are going through of discovery everything is extreme. It is either extremely painful or they feel extremely loved. We need to be vigilant and considerate when dealing with our children. No matter the age. 

My daughter is five and she's extremely intelligent. She is confident and knows what she wants which is a great platform to raise a brilliant woman.  She is stubborn and we but heads. (yes, with a five-year-old). But my focus has shifted and I will put all my energy into raising a confident, proud, hard-working, strong, independent woman that hopefully has no unnecessary baggage caused by me. I have a few ideas on what I must do to achieve that:

·       My daughter, I love you.

·         I will always try to tell you that I love you and show it in everything I do.

·         You are special and you deserve only the best.

·        I will always stand by you, my daughter. I have your back and I mean it.

·        I will support you and help you to become the very best version of yourself.

·         I will protect you my daughter like a lioness protects her cubs.

·         I am telling the world and showing the world that you are my daughter, and I   will fight for you and with you.

·         Everyone must know without a doubt that you are important to me and you matter.         

·         You must be an independent woman.

·        You have a voice and a say and do not be afraid to use it.

·        stand up for what you believe in.

·        Do not accept anyone mistreating you or disrespecting you. Ever.

·         Do not accept anyone abusing you. Ever

·         You do not need a man to make you happy. But if you find one that does. Good

·         You do not need a man to take care of you. 

·         I will try not to forget that you are a person with feelings and emotions

         You matter to me and I love you.

·         I will not allow anyone to hurt my daughter.

·         I will not encourage anyone to hurt my daughter as a child or an adult.

          I will always try not to make promises that I can't keep. 

·         You will grow up, but you will always be MY child.

        I WILL   ALWAYS PROTECT YOU. 

       

          

Mothers Remember this:

·         Pain does not go away. Time does not heal all wounds.

·         Life continues and we can’t dwell on it, but it doesn’t go away.

·         There are no scars. There are scabs that can be scratched at until they come off and you bleed again.

·         You might not see or realise that you are hurting her so make sure to have talks  to always know where she is emotionally.

·         Everyone is different so just because you don’t think you’re hurting her doesn't mean you are not.

·         Please protect your daughter.

            The way we raise our daughters determine the kind of woman they will be. 

        Even animals protect their young.

        These are just my opinions.

T     Thank you for reading.