Lessons for my Son

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Just to remind me

I feel that this reminder to myself is necessary. I have neglected my role as advisor and guide in my son's life. I feel that these lessons will become part of the child and man over time. If we do not teach our sons the proper way to live, it is our daughters that suffer.

 I always told myself I am raising a man, not a boy. I told myself that I will do everything in my power to help him understand the right way to live. I feel that I may have slagged off but everything is back in perspective. 

 

·        My son I love you and always will.

·        I will try to tell you regularly and to show my love in everything I do.

·        I love you enough to try and teach and guide you how to be a great man.

·        I’ve taught you about God’s grace and the bible.

·        It is a fountain of knowledge, information, and guidance. Remember it and use it.

·        I will always be here to protect and guide you.

·        Remember there is nothing more important than family. It is everything.

·         Respect all woman starting with me and your sister. That’s how you learn.

·        You can never hurt woman just because you can.

·        Physically or emotionally or any other way.

·         Never raise your hands for any woman, NO MATTER WHAT!!!!

·        Even if you have seen it happening, it is not the right way.

·        The mother of your children should always have your respect regardless OF whether you are together or not.

·        She experienced hell to bear your child or children. Childbirth is no joke.

·        Respect her.

·        Son if you take a wife, you must respect her and treat her properly.

·        Whether you marry or not, a woman is your partner not your slave or your punching bag or your outlet for verbal abuse.

·        She is her own person and matters as much as you.

·        Son, you must have values and principles.

·        Honour, Integrity, Love, Loyalty, Character, Honesty, etc.

·         Son your word is your bond.

·        If you agree to do something, you must do it.

·         Honesty is truly the best policy.

·        Say what you mean and mean what you say.

·        Money doesn’t make a man, character does.

·        Even though money does make life easier don’t love money more than people.

Choose your friends wisely because people judge you by your friends.

·         Making one true friend who stands by you is better than having lots of nice time friends who will drop you at the first sign of trouble.

·        Son be someone that people can be rely on when in trouble.

·        Son be loyal to those you love.  Always.

·        Be your own man, know your own mind and do not follow the crowd.

·        If it feels wrong, it probably is wrong.

·        Be independent. Stand on your own two feet.

·        Work for what you want. Don’t expect people to help you, they won’t.

·        I will try to teach you the skills you need, in case you do not want to get married.

·         Its fine if you don’t get married, but if you do it must be for the right reasons.

·        Even though I’m raising you to be a man I am here to protect you.

·        I will tell you when you are wrong. I will call you out about it, but I will protect you, nonetheless. Always.

·        I will not call you out in public. It’s between us.

·         Fighting doesn’t make you a man. But  defend yourself or someone else when called for.

·        Being kind, considerate and gentle does not make you weak.

·        Having manners and respect does not make you weak or less of a man.

·        You needn’t shout to get your point across. When people respect you, they will listen. If they don’t  get rid of them.

·        Do not disregard other people’s opinions.

Everyone in life matters, not only those who have or those who can give you something.

·        Never use people. It is not honourable.

·        Everything has a season.

·         Life is not fair but keep persevering.

·         Never give up.

·      Surround yourself with positive people who help you become a better person.

·        Avoid toxic people who drag you down.

·      Always let a woman know exactly where she stands with you. Don’t make her guess or wonder.

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                                    MOTHERS

Love your son and make sure that he knows you are always there.

I’m not saying make him a mommy’s boy.

Just let him know that love and support and protection is always available.

Let him know that when things are hard, or he is struggling or even suffering that he can come home for rest and rejuvenation so that he can tackle the problems head on.

 Let him know that you do not condone bad behaviour no matter what the situation.

 Let him know your expectations.

 Never call him out Infront of others, do it in private. We do not want to emotionally damage our children.

We want healthy, well-balanced children who will grow up to be emotionally well balanced adults.

Mothers pray for your sons.

The world is hard and tough.

These are just my thoughts and opinions .

Thanks for reading